Wednesday, April 24, 2013

Is Your Body Language Driving Men Away?

How to be warm, welcoming and inviting to love?

Women are accustomed to being judged according to our looks. Our experience is that men approach and pursue us based on physical appearance alone. While not appreciating being judged by how attractive we are and feeling as though this reduces us to mere sex objects what is a female to do?

Ladies I am posing the question, is it possible that we may be completely mistaken in our perception of how men view women? Let's say for a moment that men are NOT superficial but rather highly perceptive and while evaluating us according to our looks see far more about us than we thought possible..

Not at all ignoring that men are largely controlled by their oftentimes overpowering response to female allure however as men mature they start developing more appreciation of internal aspects of women. And these subtle inner qualities are more apparent to a man with even just a cursory look than we can imagine. I have been discovering the amazing things men can discern simply by looking at a woman.

So the hidden truth is: Men can determine what going on in the inside of a woman by how she looks on the outside

When a man looks at a woman's body, he sees far more than his preferred female parts. They are able to determine in a glance by how a woman carries and moves her body whether or not she is hostile or open and receptive, patient or a control freak

Men clearly see if a woman is confident, has low-self-esteem, on the defensive, or is comfortable with herself., They notice if a woman lavishes herself with care and love in how she moves and through her action or if she. And tell exactly what she thinks of herself. As one man stated "I can tell if she thinks she's beautiful, thinks she's ugly, or doesn't think about herself at all."

Men keep away when we appear like this:

Bitter women have a pinched look. Resentment creates sharp edges on a woman's face making her seem uninviting regardless if how pretty she is.

When we are upset or angry our faces can have the look of being clouded or muddled. Causing men to keep their distance if a woman is happy, reflects a warmth that draws m. Being peaceful with self and the world shows up as a softening of your face that makes you appear welcoming and inviting

Eyes & Lips and what they reveal to men

Your eyes are truly the window to your soul and reveal every emotion and hide nothing. When women are experiencing anything from joy, to resentment to passion the pupils adjust accordingly and make the eyes reflect whatever you are feeling. Majority of men agree that eyes are the most attractive feature on any woman. Alison Armstrong quotes 'One man in his 30s stated, "The most extraordinary thing is to look into a woman's eyes and see that she accepts you."

Lips tell so much without us even speaking. They also respond to emotion such as when they narrow when we are feeling distress. Do not underestimate the mesmerizing effect of a woman's smile According to Alison Armstrong of Understand Men 'A man on the panel in Celebrating Men, Satisfying Women stated, "You can tell if a woman is just smiling because she is supposed to and it's false. The best thing is when a woman smiles at you, and the smile was meant just for you." So be sure to maximize the power of a genuine smile."'

Surprise yourself by asking a man what he truly sees

Ask the men in your life if this is true. Doing your own investigating you will be pleasantly surprised how insightful men are. Be sure to ask "What can you tell about a woman just by looking at her?" Listen and let them teach you. Take the plunge and ask, "What can you tell when you look at me?"

Be open to receiving his truth otherwise he will sense that you are expecting a particular answer will not be comfortable in being honest with you.

Men when judging us by our appearance are picking up on far more than mere outward presence. Our looks convey clearly who and what we really are. A man may be sexually attracted by great rack or awesome legs, and by blatant sexuality. But you are much better off when he is charmed and enchanted by the happiness, confidence, passion and acceptance that exudes all over you.

Monday, December 17, 2012

You Have to Assume the Best in Men - Dating Coach Evan Marc Katz


                                         Evan Matc Katz - Your Personal Trainer For Love
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Friday, December 14, 2012

Looking For Husband Material?

For all of you smart successful accomplished ladies who are stuck in the lonely rut I have exciting news. This is your time to shine. Never has it been a better to be independent and intelligent with your traits increasing your attraction factor. If you have been finding that your accomplished fabulousness has been hurting you love life and your ability to attract husband material let me let you in on a little secret. According to Stephanie Coontz op-ed piece in the New York Times,.  “the most important predictor of marital happiness for a woman is not how much she looks up to her husband but how sensitive he is to her emotional cues and how willing he is to share housework and child-care. And those traits are easier to find in a low-key guy than a powerhouse.”
So if you’re an intelligent and successful woman  afflicted with the ‘romance novel inspired’ expectations  of our ideal man  and guilty of what Coontz  identifies  as confusing “intimidation with infatuation” in your choice of lovers then how about making a change.
Reality Number One: Not hating on the alpha male type but there is only a limited supply of these.  
Reality Number Two: Truth be told, as Evan Marc Katz the Dating Coach for Strong Successful Women states “I am not arguing that women ought to “settle.” I am arguing that we can now expect more of a mate than we could when we depended on men for our financial security, social status and sense of accomplishment. But that requires ditching the Lois Lane syndrome, where we ignore the attractions and attention of Clark Kent because we’re so eager for the occasional fly-by from Superman.”
Life Partner Material
Is He Husband Material
Reality Number Three: If you are like most of your fellow accomplished sisters chances are your perfect partner ideal falls in the taller, smarter, richer and more powerful categories and while this type of man does set our hormones ablaze by definition these men are often poor husband material and unable or unwilling to give you the type of attention, devotion and partnership you desire and deserve. His focus  and strong identification with financial success and material accomplishment make these men more likely to find your success a liability NOT an asset.
“Certainly, some guys are still threatened by a woman’s achievements,” Coontz’s article states “But scaring these types off might be a good thing. The men most likely to feel emotional and physical distress when their wives have a higher status or income tend to be those who are more invested in their identity as breadwinners than as partners and who define success in materialistic ways. Both these traits are associated with lower marital quality
So ladies time to ditch the Lois Lane fantasy and take a second look at the Clark Kent types. Truth be told I always thought Clark sexy but of course ignored the obvious warning signs and married a ‘smarter, taller, richer  ‘Superman’  type who was absolutely unable and unwilling to provide the emotional support, connection and partnership that I craved. So take it from me, learning from my lesson, I decided to follow Evan Marc Katz’s advice and shifted my priorities, stopped confusing “intimidation with infatuation,” expanded my definition of husband material and found my Clark Kent. If you would like to find more excellent advice in supercharging your ‘Find Your Husband Now’ mission subscribe to Evan Mark Katz newsletter today!!!

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